Okay, so I know how things can be sometimes. You’re feeling a little deflated and not really knowing whether you’re going up, down, or round and round in circles. We all often find ourselves wanting to change things in our life to improve it, but not really knowing what to change – and if we do, then we don’t know where to start. Now before you all think I’m going motherly on you – this is not me preaching to you – it’s simply some advice I’d give to anyone that found they wanted to start improving themselves and their life.
You may read this and think “No thanks, I’m fine without this”, that’s cool. Even if one person reads this and enjoys it, or finds it useful that’s my job done and I’m happy… I’m not going to bore you any more with me rambling on, so here goes!
1. Stop comparing yourself to others
This is a common mistake we all make. We see how others are living their lives, or how pretty they are, or what they’re wearing, or anything about a person that we want to see – and then we think about how perfect they seem, or how perfect their lives seem. STOP. HOLD UP. You’re perfectly fine being who you are because that’s who you are supposed to be at this moment in time. You could know something in their 20’s, living in their own place with a career that they love. If you’re not there, that’s totally fine. You’re perfectly normal. It’s your life, and you’ve made yourself into who you are today – that’s an achievement in itself! Just because you see people with nicer shoes or hair or whatever, doesn’t mean they are any better than you are – it’s material matter. You could have lived without it before you saw what they had and you can continue that way too.
2. Be your own person in life
Don’t try to be someone/something you’re not, do as your heart pleases. Don’t not be you because you are awesome. This sort of ties in with the first one, and also the next one I suppose – but don’t let anyone tell you who you should be. You know more than anyone on Earth who you are and what your purpose in life is. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not just to “fit in” or “be cool” – you’re cool in your own way, you’re unique. Don’t feel bad for not being like everyone else if that’s not who you are. You have been brought into this world, a world that is placed in the middle of the galaxy with exact chemical balance to let you be here. You deserve to be yourself. So what if people don’t like it!? Which brings me onto this…
3. Don’t worry about what other people think
Pretty much carrying on from the second point… Don’t let what people think of you bring you down. Words may hurt, but pain is temporary! So what if someone doesn’t like the way you dress, or how you have your hair, or how you live your life. I can’t stress enough how many times I’ve had people say to me “… said this about me and now I’m worried I’m not alright” (or something along those lines anyway!). In the nicest way possible, get over it. If someone doesn’t like something about you, that’s because they want what you have and you should take it on the chin and not give a damn. People try to put each other down everyday, but don’t let it break you and don’t worry about it. You’re fab the way you are because you are who you are and no one should try to change that.
4. Time management and prioritising
You’ll find yourself worried that there isn’t enough time in a day from time to time and more than likely get yourself into a fluster about it. Don’t let time control you. Manage your time effectively. Even if this means planning out your day the night before, that’s fine. Remember to not set yourself harsh deadlines. Don’t set an unrealistic goal so that you don’t stress yourself out more by not being able to meet it. If you don’t meet your “schedule”, that’s fine too. You just set a little bit more time, but you also need to make sure you’re determined enough to reach the goals you’re setting yourself. If you want to get fit, then set a realistic goal. You need to have the will power to aim and succeed to get to where you want to be.
5. Spend time with those who matter most
A lot of us spend a lot of time on social media, and it’s so easy to do. You’ll be scrolling through Facebook, Twitter or Instagram and before you know it an hour has passed and all you’ve done is read a load of rubbish about people you don’t really care about. People forget about those who matter too easily sometimes – almost too easily it’s scary. We’ve all done it, don’t be ashamed. Now is the time to put the laptop away (says the person writing this blog), and spend time with your parents, siblings, friends. Social media is great for sharing things with others, but it’s better when you look up from the screen and see what’s happening in front of you. You never know what you’re missing out on!
6. Reach for your dreams
Think of something you really want to do – I mean really want to do. Think about how your life would be if you could or did. Now go do it. It really is that simple. OK, maybe not as simple as that, you will have to work hard and be determined, but if you want it enough you’ll make sure you get it. Don’t be afraid to achieve your dreams and don’t let anything hold you back. Your life is a play and you are the writer and director, now make it the best frickin’ play anyone has ever seen! If you feel like your time is up stop thinking silliness – it’s never too late to achieve anything. If you have the right mindset and will power, you will be able to become and achieve anything you want to. Step out of your comfort zone, push the boundaries and live the life everyone wishes they could. Be wild!
7. Take your own advice
Have you ever been in a sticky situation and you’ve asked your friend for advice, but then didn’t bother taking it and carried on worrying about the same situation? If you mentally said no, you’re not fooling anyone! We’ve all been there – I certainly have more times than I can count. The only way you will get to the bottom of any situation is not by over-thinking and snowballing into a thought-pit of fire, but to sit down and think rationally about the problem and think about how you want to solve it. None of us take our own advice enough, and before you know it you’ll be regretting the fact you never listened to yourself. Only you know what’s best for you and although you’re mate Polly might give the BEST ADVICE EVER, you’re forgetting about the fact that you know yourself better than anyone and you know what choices are best for you. Listen to yourself more, trust yourself, and do what is best for you.
Remember to smile more. Smiling is the best cure to everything! If you feel sad – smile. If you feel angry – smile. It is known that smiling is infectious, so if you smile others smile with you. Obviously, it’s normal to feel sad or angry (you wouldn’t be human if you didn’t), but don’t let these emotions mentally suffocate you. Tell yourself you’re going to allow a hour, an evening, or maybe a day to this emotion and then start picking yourself back up and smile again. Happiness is known to make you feel more productive, more motivated and more confident. What can go wrong?!
I hope you enjoyed reading this, and thanks so much for checking it out. I’ll be posting again soon. Bye!